Where are the Positive Voices When you Need Them?
Is it just me or does it seem like the negative voices in your head come around at the most inopportune times. When you have 100% confidence in yourself and you could easily silence those voices in your head, they never seem to be around, but the second you start to question yourself, self-doubt and his buddies self-hate, self-pity, and self-consciousness come racing forward to give you advice. And when they come forward, they don’t do so quietly. They come screaming at you at the top of their lungs so that you can’t do anything else but listen to what they have to say. But, a thing I learned a while back is that just because someone is loud and in your face with their opinions, doesn’t necessarily mean that what they have to say is worthwhile. Often times the reason that they feel the need to be so loud and boisterous is because they feel like people would be more willing to listen to what they have to say if they make themselves known and draw a lot of attention to themselves. Sometimes they even know in their heart of hearts that they’re not saying anything of substance, but this doesn’t stop them from becoming loud so that people will notice them and pay attention to them. Even though the information that they spew isn’t useful, people will still flock to them because they happen to be loud and charismatic enough to draw people to them, and people will follow them even though there is usually someone with better advice standing right next to them.
You see positive thinker, often times it’s the people who are standing right next to you and not making a lot of a noise that have worthwhile things to say. They don’t make a spectacle of themselves because they know that there’s value in what they’re saying and they know that speaking their truth is enough. They don’t need to yell to get other people’s attention because the content of what they are saying will cause people to listen to them. And in the end, these individuals may not have too many people that come to listen to them, but those that do choose to listen know that what they’re hearing is valuable.
The same thing goes for those voices in your head. There are the loud negative voices with nothing good to say that live up there, but there are also the quite positive voices that live in your head as well. The loud ones seem like the easier choice to listen to because they’re so apparent, but listening to the soft spoken ones would be the better option. It’s not as easy to pick the positive voices because they aren’t as loud, but they’re there. You just have to focus your energy enough to listen to them.
Silencing the negative voices isn’t always easy or completely doable because the loud voices like to be heard, but if you choose not to listen to them they’ll see that they aren’t getting the attention that they deserve and they’ll move on because the last thing a loud person wants to have happen is for them to not be heard. And when you end up listening to your positive voices enough, you’ll start to see the validity in what they’re telling you. You’ll take note and listen to them, and you’ll be better for it.
But with everything in life, a good thing never seems to last. Those negative voices always tend to creep their way back into the forefront somehow, but if you catch yourself starting to listen to what they have to say again then you can stop yourself before they develop a strong hold on you. Remember the good advice that the positive voices gave to you so that you won’t be tempted to listen to what the negative voices have to say again. Write down the positive things if you have to. And become so familiar with this list of advice from the positive friends in your head that you’ll be able to pull them to your memory whenever the negative voices start to surface. Having this list readily available (whether it is actually written down somewhere, typed up somewhere, or just in your mind) just may help you to keep the negative voices at bay for a longer period of time.
Positive thinker, remember that the positive voices in your head are there to help you. They may not be as loud and inviting as the negative voices are, but they’re always there in your head standing right next to the negative voices and what they have to offer is far better than anything that the negative voices can offer you. So, go to them and listen to them so that you can benefit from their help!