It would be great if everything that we wanted to happen would happen. Like if we could always have a good hair day. Or if we could never have car troubles or run into traffic when we’re already running late. It would be great if we could get that guy or that girl that we like to actually like us back. It would perfect if we could always avoid getting colds. All of us would love it if these could happen for us, but unfortunately that’s never going to be the case. There are many things that are out of our control. We can’t decide when we’re going to have a good hair day; sometimes our hair just won’t cooperate with us. We can’t predict when we’re going to have car troubles. We can’t force someone to like us who doesn’t like us. And we can’t avoid getting sick.

No one wants bad things to happen to them, but bad things occurring is just a part of life. And it’s a part of everyone’s lives, so don’t feel like you’re the only one who goes through rough patches from time to time. I know that sometimes it feels that way, especially in this day and age. Most people you know probably use social media sites, and the main thing that social media is used for is sharing the good things that happen in your life. All you see when you go on Twitter is people tweeting about their new job promotions. Every time you get on Facebook someone new is in a relationship or getting married. When you pop open your Instagram all you see is photos of people vacationing in some hot new location. And snapchat is mostly used to show your friends how much fun you’re having without them. Hardly anyone gets on Twitter and tweets about getting fired. Very few people go on Facebook to announce that they’re getting a divorce after being married for only a year. Why would anyone go on to Instagram and post pictures of themselves at the grocery store? And I’m sure you’re not going to see too many of your friends sending you snapchat videos of them getting yelled at by some random person on the street. Everyone has these kinds of bad moments, you just never hear about them happening, so sometimes you start to think that you’re the only one who ever goes through hardships but in case you forgot, I’m here to tell you that everyone experiences things that are out of their control.

When you experience these moments that you have no control over, you genuinely aren’t very thrilled about them. Having control means that we get to decide what happens, but when we don’t have this control, we lose that ability to decide what happens to us. But just because you lose control over whatever is happening to you, doesn’t mean that you have to lose control over how you choose to react to it. Everyone has a bad hair day from time to time. That doesn’t mean that you have to scream and pout about it. Just put on a hat or put your hair up and move on with your life. Everyone with a car has car troubles, but that doesn’t mean that you need to get frustrated when they do occur. Just take a breath and find out how you can move on from this situation. Is there someone you can call to pick you up? Can you get an uber? Everyone experiences liking someone who doesn’t like them back, but this doesn’t have to be a disastrous occasion. Go out to a bar and have a nice chat with someone else who’s there. This person may end up being even better for you than that person who’s not returning your amorous feelings. Getting a cold every now and again is a part of life, but it doesn’t have to be a big thing. Take some extra time to yourself. Drop some of those excess chores and social encounters that you have and take that time to recuperate.

Positive thinker, don’t give a bad situation more power than it deserves. You may not have control over everything that happens in your life, but you can choose to look on the bright side of the things that you can’t control. No situation is as bad as you initially make it out to be. If you just take a moment to step back from the situation, you’ll find out that you have the strength to deal with it.

So next time a situation that’s out of your control happens, I want you to breathe and take a moment to figure out how you’re going to get through it. Don’t just react right away. You want to find the best solution to your problem. So take the time you need to figure out a way to get through it.

You got this positive thinker!