Moving Forward

After I graduated from college, I had no clue what I wanted to do with my life. For a long time, I wanted to be in the FBI, so everything that I had done up into that point in time was helping me to achieve that goal. I got good grades throughout school, I stayed out of trouble with the law because I knew that I would need to be able to pass a background check, I stayed in shape because I knew that I would have to pass the physical exam, and I majored in psychology because when you’re dealing with criminals it’s good to know how they think. So by the time I was getting ready to graduate, I found an advanced degree that I believed would help me even more towards getting the job I thought I wanted. That’s why I applied to graduate school for forensic psychology. However, after I submitted my applications I realized that I didn’t want to go into the field that I had chosen, and I didn’t even want the career that I thought I had wanted. They both seemed appealing to me at first, but the more I learned about them the less I wanted to have anything to do with them. The only reason I had stuck with this idea for so long, was because I had devoted so much of my life to it that I felt like I had to go through with it, but obviously I didn’t have to do anything that I didn’t want to do. So even though I had gotten accepted into three out for the four schools that I had applied to, I ended up not going to any of them. Instead, I started working, but since I didn’t know what I wanted, I opted for part time jobs. I went from job to job, trying to find something that would be fulfilling. However, nothing that I took on helped to fill the void. And I was becoming more and more frustrated as a result. That’s when I decided that I would give school another shot. What I had been doing wasn’t working for me, but switching things up might help. So I did some research and found something that sparked my interest. I sent in an application, got an interview, and then I got accepted!

Fast forward a year later, and I’m in the beginning of my second semester, and I’m also realizing that this program is not at all what I had in mind, but that’s okay. The course may not have been what I was expecting, but it did help me to make a much needed change. I wasn’t going to get anywhere by doing the same thing over and over again, and choosing to go half way across the world to get my Master’s allowed me to stop doing that.

Positive thinker, if you ever find yourself in a position where you feel stuck or stagnant, then you have to make a change. It doesn’t have to be a big one, but you do have to move if you want something different. Something as small as finding a new hobby can seriously change things for the better. Or if you want, you can go for the plunge and make a big change. The important thing to remember is that doing the same thing over and over again isn’t going to get you anywhere when you’re in an unhappy spot in your life.

And even if you end up in my position where that change isn’t what you were expecting, you can still learn something from it. Hindsight is 20/20, and if I knew now what I knew back then I would have never decided to uproot my life. I would have gone with a different change, but since I can’t go back into the past, all I can do is make the best of the present and use this experience as a tool to move forward and help me find something that I do like. And the same goes for you. If your change isn’t what you were expecting, all that means now is that this is one more thing that you know you won’t be happy with, and now that you know this, you can move on to the next one. And if the next thing doesn’t work out either, then you can just keep trying again until you find something that does. It may not happen right away, but it definitely will eventually!